You always had that feeling in your gut that something just wasn’t right. Of course when asked, he would deny that anything is going on between him and this new woman you only heard various things about.
His slow, yet intense irritation by your questions would suggest that maybe he’s hiding something, but you shrug it off and settle for feeling like you’re driving yourself crazy.
Then it happens.
You find out that hunch you had from the very start was right on. Whether he admitted to cheating or you found out through another source, the fact remains:
He’s cheated, now what?
This is where your relationship goes from complicated to down right unnerving. How are you supposed to address the issue when your emotions are whaling and the very first thought is “Forget you, I’m leaving!”
Breathe. Breathe and acknowledge the now. Ask the twenty million questions. Cry. By all means, leave nothing out.
Now you’re left with the aftermath. It’s never the easiest to accept what has happened but the truth is, you have to accept it before you can officially overcome his cheat.
Acknowledge your options. You don’t have to stay but you don’t have to leave to prove your a force to be reckoned with. If your heart is 100 percent in the relationship, than it’s understandable why you would choose the latter and stay.
Working it out isn’t easy. Everything brings back those days where you had a feeling something was going on, from songs on the radio, to events and places you’ve visited during that time.
You’re not purposely trying to think about it, but you do. And the reason is, is because you’ve invested your time and not to mention, your life into this man.
And the time has come for you to face it.
To face that there is nothing wrong with admitting that it hurts, that sometimes you want to scream so loud so that the universe will listen.
Don’t blame yourself
Take responsibility for not listening to your intuition but never kill yourself with regret
Find out where you can make things right on your half. He has to take the responsibility on his end. You can’t be at two places at once.
Look closely. I am looking at you, eye to eye and this is not a joke.
You didn’t get into this relationship with the intention to jump out of it. If he is remorseful, than the choice is yours to offer that all too important second chance.