How do you keep it going with all the stuff you want to talk
about?
Here’s what you do first…
How to talk to women – STEP 1: CREATE YOUR OWN BRIDGE
A conversational bridge is a way of bringing up a topic that you
want to steer the conversation towards.
Let’s say you know you want to talk about your passions and
interests with a woman, and you’ve thought of a great way to bring
it up and talk about it. And, let’s say your passion is photography.
You have a couple ways you could bring it up in conversation, like:
“You know, I was just thinking as I’m looking at you that you would
make a fantastic subject for photography. Have you ever thought
about doing a sitting?”
(Note that I did NOT use any corny lines about “you should be a
model.”)
You could also bring it up without focusing on her by saying:
“I was out scouting locations for some photos today. The light here
is really fantastic for bringing out skin tones and eye color. Isn’t
it great?”
(I don’t have time to cover it here, but showing this kind of “vision”
of the world is VERY at-tractive to women.)
Okay, so now we’ve got a couple ways to bring up our interests in
conversation, without bragging AND at the same time communicating
to a woman that you’ve got a hobby in your life that brings out
your passion.
Maybe you’ve got some great questions to ask, and things to say
that you think of when you’re at home, but now you need to
have it ready all the time, like a loaded gun.
You want to be able to come up with this when you’re out and about,
but you find yourself constantly forgetting it when the pressure is on.
Here’s your next step…
How to talk to women – STEP 2: ENGAGE YOUR MODALITIES
Modalities are simply your senses. Sight, smell, hearing, taste,
and touch.
The more of your senses you use, the quicker things are embedded in
your mind.
So you want to spend some time before you go out writing these
words down, whether it’s the questions you want to ask, or just
a list of topics you want to bring up in conversation.
This will engage your “kinesthetic” modality.
Then you want to spend some time saying the words out loud. This
will help you rehearse and say things smoothly, and it also engages
your “auditory” modality.
And you also want to spend some time reviewing things on paper.
Read and re-read the phrases and information you want to commit to
memory. This will engage your “visual” modality.
But even this is not enough for most of us. You need ONE extra
simple step to make this work, and it’s something that not many
guys know about.
I’ve got a special method that increases your results about 1000%.
You need to…
How to talk to women – STEP 3: ENGAGE “SITUATIONAL REHEARSAL” TECHNIQUE
Back when I was in high school, I used to have a good method of
learning material I needed for tests. You probably did, too.
I would cram all my notes on a piece of paper with facts, writing
stuff everywhere, and in every direction. On the margins, sideways,
whatever.
Then, when it came time to study for a test on dates and names and
memorized facts, I would just sit down with the page and cover up
sections with my hand and try to recall the information.
Well, we all did this in some way or another with our notes. What
you don’t realize is that you weren’t learning the information as
much as you were learning WHERE that information was on the paper.
You got locked into recalling the information based on WHERE it
was, not WHAT it was.
So when you get a fact or information that you can’t see on a piece
of paper, you would forget it fast. (Which it’s so easy to forget
names. We’re not paying attention to it enough the first time, and
there’s nothing to anchor it in our heads.)
That’s right, it wasn’t the information you were learning as much
as giving your brain a LOCATION for that information. It’s called
“spatial relationship,” and it’s how your mind stores information.
It’s more important to give a RELATIONSHIP to the information to
make it stick.